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  1. My wife and I argue often, we are both very different and from different cultures which add to the challenges. Not phisycally or throwing things or anything like that. We are just very different natured. We have two teenagers, 15 and 18. Both giving us trouble. My son, the 18 yo has not spoken to me in 1 week, it was over a rought talk we had, he never appreciates anything we do for him and I called him out by telling him the money cost of things and I was going to start to put a price on everything I do for him as it is a one way street with him. I explained to him that in every relationship you need to give and take, not only take. He never gives back, very dismissive and goes days without reaching out, unless he needs something. He never greets his sister, he told me he is embarrassed by her because she likes (thugs) and that goes against everything that I, as a father tell him not to become (we live in an inner city and ufortunately they go to public school and are surrounded by rough kids, understandbly my wall is up 24/7) I see an overwhelming number of pregnant teens and among other concerns, this is my biggest one. It’s becoming impossible to control her. She is already signed up with activities 6 days week and still figures out a way to escape. We need to work and cannot lock her up inside her bedroom. Today I came home earlier and caught her rushing to the house to get here before us, she spent the day at a ghetto neighbrhood. I am heartbroken and beyond discouraged.

    My wife tells me every day it is my fault, I am a yeller, shouter, rough and the list goes on. Yes, I do yell at some occasions (after asking the same thing in a politely manner at least 5 times) but I do not walk around yelling and shouting. It feels the only time they understand I am not ok with it is when I yell. My wife is beyond self spoken, tolerant, understanding, etc. They walk all over her.

    I am not sure if I should move out since I seem to be the problem, not sure if it is too far gone and the damage is already done and irreversible. I do everything I do to protect and provide for them, even though my delivery can be disastrous sometimes. I am present, financially and emotionally. Despite the lack of appreciation, I continue to give. Also, afraid if I leave, things might go south completely due to them walking all over her.

    Any feedback would be appreciated. It has been very rough.

    1. Rukayya Zirapur says:

      Hey,

      I don’t see you are the problem here. Possibility is there is a lot more to the story that we can discuss about. Plus, from my understanding there are a lot of complaints from everybody’s end, which is why nobody cares to consider eachother’s concern but everyone is fighting to be heard.

      I believe we can discuss about this in detail and I can give you a consistent time to help if you wish to go for a Counseling session. You can use this link to contact me in case – https://wa.me/message/L3B2XOPRBMSHA1

    2. Rukayya Zirapur says:

      Hey,

      I don’t see you are the problem here. Possibility is there is a lot more to the story that we can discuss about. Plus, from my understanding there are a lot of complaints from everybody’s end, which is why nobody cares to consider eachother’s concern but everyone is fighting to be heard.

      I believe we can discuss about this in detail and I can give you a consistent time to help if you wish to go for a Counseling session. You can use this link to contact me in case – https://wa.me/message/L3B2XOPRBMSHA1

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