To all the singles out there, are you scared of getting into a relationship? Is your fear keeping you away from falling in love?
Let’s accept it. We all strive for love and to be in a relationship with someone. However, at the same time most of us are afraid of it. You will struggle to figure it out that why do relationships scare me, yet won’t get a genuine answer.
But the thing is, everything has a root cause. There’s a reason to your relationship anxiety, it is just that you either don’t want to accept the facts or you simply haven’t explored yourself.
You may also have found the love of your life, because of some reasons you may not have the courage to go ahead. And to solve this query, I have curated this article.
If you invest some more time and go ahead reading the complete piece, you will find some incredible ways to heal.
Why People Are Scared Of Liking Someone?
When you are constantly looking for a good life partner, your imaginary fears hold you back. They don’t allow you to put yourself out on the stage full of new experiences. You step back with fluctuating thoughts.
The reasons for these are many. In fact, even you know in your subconscious mind but haven’t acknowledged it.
Well, here are some reasons for why are you so scared of relationships –
Why Do Relationships Scare Me?
Fear of getting hurt or hurting others
It’s natural for a person to get hurt when he/she is rejected by others. Some people don’t want to get into relationship because they are afraid that the other person would reject them, and they would get hurt.
If you don’t overcome this fear, then it would be difficult for you to love someone. Rejection is a part of love, and you should accept it wholeheartedly. Always think positively and welcome love in your life.
Even if such people find their soul mate, a fear that their partner will leave them constantly haunts them. They keep worrying about losing their partner. This gives rise to unwanted doubts in relationships which could have destructive outcomes.
In some cases, people are scared of hurting someone in a relationship, so they stay away from it.
Have you ever wondered of what is the fear of hurting others’ feelings called? It can be a sign of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) where you have an urge to hurt the feelings of others. However, you can come out of these intrusive thoughts by sharing your fears with your partner.
Degrading self- worth
You may have noticed few people who always criticize themselves.
For example: They say “I am not beautiful, no one would like me”. The belief of our so-called culture that “you’re not enough” has taken a hold in the minds of these people.
When they come across the partner of their dreams, this belief makes them think that they aren’t fit for him/her. Instead of addressing this issue they always try to run away from the situation.
It is possible for one to heal from this fear, but it would take time. They should be made clear of that it is just their fear and not reality. Don’t lower your self-worth, keep in mind that you’re good enough and this will make a lot of difference.
A heart break can also be a reason for a person to avoid relationships. You would be frustrated if your ex had cheated or left you. You may think that if you get into a relationship with someone they would do the same.
Thus, you are scared to be in a relationship again. It might be tough for you to open up to a new person as there is no guarantee that they will not hurt you.
Staying away from love isn’t a solution for this; instead talk about your past and insecurities to the person interested in you. I’m sure they will understand and you both will be able to work on it together.
Fear Of Intimacy
When you ask yourself “why do relationships scare me?” you may come across the fear of intimacy as an answer.
You tend to push others away if you are afraid to share a close emotional or physical relation with someone. You may be unable to express your feelings and thoughts with others or may be nervous to have sex.
Sometimes when you are in a relationship, you share your feelings with your partner but aren’t comfortable to get physical. All this could be because of lack of trust. Working on strengthening your trust on your partner will help you to overcome this fear.
Is He/She The Right One?
One of the main reasons for “Why am I scared to let someone in” is that you cannot decide whether he /she is the right person for you or not.
You have set so high standards for your partner, and you’re worried that whether they can live up to your expectations. Let me tell you, such expectations mostly paves way for disappointment.
Now you would ask me “How to stop worrying about my relationship?” to this I would say, tear off these expectations, and you would be glad to have such a loving partner.
Love isn’t the priority for everyone because they are more focused at career.
You are so busy with your work life that you don’t have time for love and relationships.
You are comfortable with your lifestyle and don’t want to change it according to the other person. Furthermore, you are worried that your time and space would be affected if you get into a relationship.
But the truth is – if you have an understanding partner then love has nothing to do with your work life. In fact, having someone by your side would be beneficial especially when you are feeling low.
All these fear stop you from experiencing one of the best parts of life. If you work on to overcome them, you can heal.
Thus, these were some reasons because of which you are scared to be in relationship. If you never knew them, I hope now you could explore yourself. Or if you know someone who too is afraid, go share with them.
Well, a quick question – What scares you most about relationships? Let me know in the comments.