An Unacceptable behavior is a behavior that causes harm and hurt to others.
It has no specific form. An Unacceptable behavior can be seen through any medium of communication, doesn’t always mean face-to-face.
It is generally seen in groups, at workplaces and schools.
For example – When we strive for a position, name, fame and more money, we indulge ourselves into conflicts and competitions. These competing behavior throughout our lives, with every kind of person lead us to nothing but harm and hurt to others.
It’s an inappropriate behavior and there are more such behaviors that we don’t know how to deal with.
To deal with any kind of unacceptable behavior, I am going to show you 5-steps. No matter whether it’s you or others, it will help you maintain peace of mind.
Examples of Unacceptable Behaviour
- Extreme demands
- Spreading rumors
- Body Shaming
- Unwanted conflicts, jokes, physical intimacy
- Copying and imitating without consent
- Not acknowledging, yet pressurizing to do something
- Controlling behavior
Dealing With An Unacceptable Behavior!
Respond, Don’t React
Inappropriate behavior can be too normal for some people. They don’t even realize what they are doing until they are informed.
Frequently, at the workplace we find employees and workers behaving inappropriate. They will use bad language, start conflicts and may even try to pull you down.
When such behaviors become too normal for them, it becomes irritating for us. We feel like reacting bad. Some of us even react without realizing its impact. So, instead of reacting you can choose to respond.
Discuss the scenario. Try to know what’s their issue, why do they do what they do, and how can you help them resolve it? The more you react, show anger, the more they will enjoy being harsh towards you.
Reacting To Manipulation
Manipulation, harassment, gaslighting and molestation are not meant to be ignored. Such acts and behaviors need serious dealing.
If a person is trying to molest (a stranger, a family member or even your spouse) you are not supposed to stay quiet. Likewise, gaslighting and manipulation needs voice.
You must speak up for the wrong going around you or happening to you. Unless you become bold about it, you will keep suffering.
In most cases, people at work let go of such inappropriate behavior to not lose the job. They avoid talking about it to anyone to save their reputation. But, in the process they lose themselves and their mental health.
It would be helpful if you don’t take it lightly and atleast reach out to someone you can trust.
Unacceptable Behavior From Wife/Husband
The inappropriate behavior from either wife or husband needs communication.
They may have regular complaints about something that you do inspite of their disliking. The complaints turn into fights and fights turn into silent treatment.
So, how do you deal with such issues? The answer is the right way to communication.
Generally, our style of communication is different. We say we communicate, yet don’t realize that our way of communicating also matters.
A wife may complain about her husband not giving time, spending most time outside the house, or doesn’t care what she feels. And her complaints are expressed through arrogance, anger or harsh words that hurt.
A husband may control the wife. He tries to make her decisions. Makes her feel bad about herself or any sort of behavior that is considered inappropriate.
In every relationship, communication is the key to resolve issues. But the right communication is always missing. If you are finding something unacceptable, communicate in a way that they don’t get hurt, yet understand your concerns.
Basically, changing the style and choosing better words that show concern, emotions and your feelings connected to it. if they don’t understand what you are fighting for, they won’t consider it. If they don’t understand that their behavior is hurting you, they won’t work upon it.
So, improve your way of communication.
Socially Unacceptable Behavior
Some examples of socially inappropriate behavior can be insulting someone in public, abusing, harassing and even discrimination.
You will find women yelling at you in public for no reason. You will find orthodox mindset people judging you for your actions. You will even notice how far people can go to bring you down for who you are or what you do.
In such cases, I would really want you to neither react nor accept their judgements. They want you to change and behave as they think is right for them. If you are confident enough about yourself, letting it go is the best thing.
If you don’t want to let it go, holding upon their words and changing yourself is the worst thing.
If you can’t do both, then have the courage to answer them calmly and not in anger.
Your self-esteem is the answer on your behalf. If it’s low, they will continue to judge you, pass out comments, insult you or harass you. If you have a higher self-esteem, they won’t find another opportunity to bring you down.
The confidence always does the job. You will never find anyone to say a thing to the wrong person because they prove people wrong with their confidence. We believe them. Then why can’t we be confident towards our honesty?
Don’t let anyone insult you, manipulate you, harass you or judge you. Always have an answer (with confidence, power of letting go, or a calm and quiet respond).
How To Tell A Man His Behavior Is Unacceptable
Here are the phrases you can use to tell a man his behavior is not acceptable.
- You hurt my emotions.
- Can you please express calmly?
- Your behavior is destroying my mental health.
- You need to improve your habits, they are creating distance between us.
- Can you improve your way of communication? The children will soon imitate you or hate you.
- Commit to me or leave me. I don’t understand half commitment or your commitment issues.
- Stop right now! I haven’t given you my consent.
- I don’t accept this behavior. This is unattractive of you.
- I am not doing what I am not comfortable doing.
Hope this was helpful.
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